Real Love rises above all of the petty things people let break them down..


We hear alot about LOVE these days. Yet we see very little of it outside of our own lives.  
Bad news tends to sell more newspapers and television advertisements!! But thanks to Facebook
and all of its new authors, LOVE is starting to shine through all of the bad media and quiet down
all of the naysayers..

I was fortunate to grow up with two very loving parents who died married 55 years. They hugged, kissed and laughed alot with all of us.. and as a result I have been very spoiled with lots of loving family and friends in my youth. The love my parents gave to us and other people as a doctor and nurse had a lasting impression on me.

I saw that change as I ventured out in to the world.. When I got to high school, love was being talked about and sung about in all of the songs of the 70's.. Roberta Flack wanted to know "Where is the Love.." Olivia Newton John declared "I Honestly Love you", the Beatles taught us "All You Need is Love..." and  "Love Love Me Do.." and Barbara Streisand said "Love is ageless and ever green seldom seen by two.."

With all of this talk about love, people still have a hard time with it. The divorce rate has skyrocketed in America in the last 30 years with the first marriage having a 75% chance of breaking up and the second a 68% chance.. Why is there so much confusion about love.? We have more information, more access, more communication, counseling, and more choices for self improvement..

So why are people struggling so much with love, commitment and marriage?? I think it may just be the reasons I mentioned..more information, more access, more communication, more out there..

My heart aches for the many people I know who are all alone or split up..Not every marriage is perfect..even the perfect ones are not perfect.. But when you listen to those words and promises you repeated at the altar or in front of a judge, they have a lot of power and meaning..

In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, in good and in bad, for better or worse .. Isn't that what love is about? Accepting that person for whatever experience comes to pass and working through the issues rather than just tossing the whole relationship..

Til death due us part.. Were you not listening?

I am sorry I just don't get this trashing of the family thing..and it does affect the whole family, not just the family of the divorcees.. If you have children, you are never going to be rid of your spouse. so why not just work it out and find the love that started YOUR family. The alternative is the train wreck of a life and a community created by all of this cheating, division and unhappiness. I lived in a town where divorce was more popular than staying married.. it sucked..

I think there are alot of selfish people out there and maybe they are incapable of love..Maybe they put too much emphasis on stuff instead of time which will never make them happy. The stuff takes over and reduces the amount of time and in that scenario, there is little room for love..

I may not know exactly what love is But I do know what LOVE ISN'T..It isn't dumping your spouse for someone younger, better looking, more interesting, richer, or thinner.. It isn't cryptic emails or Facebook statuses or games of hide and seek.. It isn't sneaking around on your spouse or flirting with everyone who comes to call. It isn't trying to control someone so much that you drain their love away..

No -- Love is a feeling for someone that is so strong that it never goes away.

It is all of those things you said and promised when you were getting married.. Those words represent love not just to your spouse but to your entire family; your Mother, your Father, your sisters, your brothers and all of your children and your grand children you will have in your future.

Real Love rises above all of the petty things people let break them down..